Quarter Moon:25years of Realization
After 1st, 7th and 18th, the 25th birthday is one of the most celebrated events in one’s life. Here are the reality bites I had for my first 25years. (This is supposed to be my 25th year birthday blog.)These things i wished i have known or had read at 15 or 10. When you are so young, you probably do not care about everything else until you start “Adulting”. So for the youngsters out there,you might want to check this out while it is still early. C’mon and take a sip on my bowl of realizations. (I wish you finish this until the very last drop because I prepared it with all my heart)
FRIENDSHIP
Choose your friends. They will give you a sense of belongingness but learn to say no if you you do not like what they are doing. Sometimes it is better to be alone than to be with wrong flock.You will be exactly like them if you bond even more with them.
You will know that there are different levels of friendship. Real friends for life, Close friend, Just friends, FB friends.Do not be desperate in staying friends with the fake ones. They will take advantage and abuse you. You will know the difference when various situations arise. If you have found a solid group of yours, congratulations. Remember though that as you grow, you lose some friends. That is life.
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HAPPINESS
It comes and go. It runs out. We’’ll never get satisfied (Probably some do feel satisfaction. I salute you) But That is how we are programmed in this world –To search for Eudamonia but we will never find the true happiness unless you choose to be.
In an essence, happiness is a choice.
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STRESS
That is your shadow! It won’t leave you unless you make yourself sunny. Stress is sometimes your food,especially in the morning. You eat stress for breakfast. It is normal. Do not let it get ahead of you. Do not let your day be spoiled because of it. Your attitude about it is the only modifiable so do you cannot hate it. Embrace it and devise a plan to limit its control of your life.
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TRAVEL & TRYING THINGS
Travel while you’re young.travel while you still have energy,while you have your full health. We won’t know what is in store for tomorrow. We would not know if tomorrow is meant to travel along the halls of the hospital or travel to the light of eternity? Time will come and you will have children and it will be more costly.
Experiment but not to the point you will be risking your self.Think before you act. you are your own choice. If you don’t like something change it.If you cannot,change your attitude. Don’t use YOLO loosely or else your only one life will end fast.
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LEARNING
It is different from schooling.It is not equated to grades and evaluation papers. No matter how we yank at it, that is how are society is being runs. we may hate it but it helps keeping up the standards although it is not 100%. because it is not true that if you get a failed mark you didn’t learn anything. The same thing goes that if you get perfect,then you already are perfect.
You can learn everywhere.you can learn vicariously. Look at others,see their mistakes and try as hard not to do the same if it is possible.Do not smart shame people just because you are intimidated.Do not look down on others because they are young. Better yet engage so you will learn as well. Sometimes,pride takes away the knowledge we are supposed to have. Value your education. Not everyone has the privilege to be on your seat. Learn your own styles and technique of studying.
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ATTITUDE
Do not be rude.it is not something to be proud of. Do not play with others feelings. Do not boil yourself into anger.You are just punishing yourself for the things done by others. Don’t let your emotions control you. Do not do something bad even if no one is looking.karma is a bitch.(and sometimes it is digital) You would not know of someone is going through something. If you cannot help them at least do not be rude or make their life miserable because of your presence.
How would you treat your life if you think it is their last day?come to think of it. Any day could be anyone’s last day.So do not be fucking rude. It actually takes more courage to see someone who is not rude when it has become the mores. Always try to keep a positive attitude.It is not being pessimistic but just orient yourself to reality.
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INTERACTING WITH PEOPLE
Every person is different. Respect. Do not set high expectations on them you might get disappointed.because People change with time. Their ideals and point of views may be different from you. Again,just respect. Know your audience. See if the one you are talking to is open-minded to engage in a meaningful conversation without them being intimidated by you. Sometimes, they will think that you are arguing,but you are just engaging to see the larger picture of things.(if you find someone like this,good for you)
Don’t choose people by their physical attributes. It is a charm but it is still superficial.See through the personality. If you want to keep others be warm with you, let them hear what they want to hear. Be nice. You will be surprised with the results. Nothing is sweeter than to hear the sound of their names(unless it sounds weird?)Exercise caution on this.Do not let yourself become a people-pleaser or else you will lose yourself.
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REFLECTION
Take a moment to reflect. Do not dwell on your mistakes but allot your time for thinking of your improvement.You will be better person if you make it a habit. IT IS hard to keep this habit but it is important for your mental and emotional health..
SELF
Embrace yourself.Do not confine yourself in a box.You are one bombshell of potentials. Because of your limitless potentials.You are also born to work on your responsibilities. AS you do you these responsibilites,you will love your self more because of your achievements. But do not forget that you are also bound to make mistakes and failures. Love yourself even the there will be times that you will hate yourself that you would even want to burn yourself in ashes. That is why i am telling you to learn to love yourself even at those times. Don’t be self entitled. Respect others and Work hard if you want something.
TRUSTING AND LOVING OTHERS
Do not trust anyone fully but God. Your friends?your life partner?your family? They will hurt you in any way at some point.it may be in a form of lie,a white lie or a sigh. so how much more the others?This is why it is so much hard to love to the fullest. Because you have to put your guards down. However though,as cupid said to psyche,Love cannot live when there is no trust. So you still fall into the trap. After all,loving is worth it. It is better to love and lost than to never love at all as said by alfred tennyson. We may be hurt.But we should also learn how to forgive,assess what can be done then move on.
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It depends on your definition.If you equate it with being with someone and spending a lifetime with a significant other, it is not for everyone. Most often than not it is not always about love but a decision.Even when you are together, there are third parties. Even when you get married and have children, there are home wreckers. Even when there are no homewreckers, there are diseases and accidents that can prematurely end your life and spouse. However though,in a perfect set up, forever’s a choice. It is a decision to stay even how awful the relationship is.It depends on how long you are willing to stick even if you no longer feel to be. Especially in this world when we can buy everything even freedom,it is your choice to embrace your partner despite his or her shittiness that consumes you. All is good if you are with a good partner. Find one who can understand you unconditionally.If you find that, you have won more than a million.
FAITH
Seeing is not always a prelude to believing. God works in mysterious ways. We sometimes question him,no not sometimes but most of the times,we question him whyyyyy? We still have to trust him because He knows what is the best for us.His answers may be hidden in things we have failed to realize and appreciate. Trust in the Lord with all of your heart,mind and soul.Lean not on your own understanding.Because our mind would not capable to comprehend the majestic works of heavens.It is far beyond our understanding.It is easier to accept things especially the frustrations if we know He got a better plan for us.
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DREAM
Fight for your dream.You have the lifetime to fulfill it.If you exhaust all 100% of effort,only then you could say that it is not for you. If you have thought that the price is no longer worth all the hassle, risk, sweat, blood and tears, change your path. Before doing so, close your eyes and picture yourself if it still worth it.You will have regrets if you do not introspect with this. This will be your prime motivation in life as well as your direction.
FAMILY
They are the most important people of your life. We may have different families.No family is perfect and you cannot choose which family you are born to but it is important that you keep up with them.and try all your best to be a good member. But mind you,Family is not just confined to being blood related. It is not limited to your biological roots. Though it is the same that whoever You are considering a family, try all your best to be a good member.
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HEALTH
Health is wealth. .Prevention is better than cure. But prevention is sometimes hassle. Just like making time for check ups, screenings,preparing better diet,maintaining a healthy lifestyle. But you won’t mind that hassle if you think that the hassle of curing disease is more than that. Need not to mention that some diseases are not even curable but only treatable. Strive to maintain a healthy lifestyle .(it is hard:(
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WORK AND SOCIALIZING
If you are with a group,Cooperate. Know their culture. Be an asset. Compromise. Do not belittle others.. Encourage each others to grow. Do not step on others just to get ahead of yourself.Karma is a bitch!haha
Get along with your workmates, you don’t Necessarily need to like them. Hate them but still show some kindness. It is not being plastic. It is professionalism.Don’t let your personal grudges get ahead of your goal. You also do not need to blabber their negativities behind their back. If you are alone,do not be hard on yourself. Balance rest and work. Know your priorities. Practice time management.Multi-tasking is a skill.But if you cannot, just focus on step at a time.
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MONEY and RICHES
Don’t get fancy over materialistic things. Many people get swoon over shiny, shimmering and splendid.They forgot that they won’t be able to bring them in the afterlife. The trend now is not extravagance but to get things of quality but on lower value. It is easy to get something if you have money but what makes something more special is that you acquire something out of effort. That is more admirable.
Money can buy happiness but not genuine happiness. Don’t let yourself be controlled with your love of money. Do not be contented on the superficial. They say |Train yourself to see gold everywhere.” (And by saying gold, I would like to refer it as something precious that it would last such as opportunities and friendship.Get it keep it.)
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FINANCES
Build your assets by saving. Learn to differentiate your needs and wants.The fine line between these will help you save money.If you can buy a big cup from the famous coffee shops and buy expensive makeups,It is likely that you can save more. Remember your parents’ money is different from yours.(unless you have a joint account. You don’t have the right to stash the money that others have hardly earned.
Prioritize the things you purchase.Do not fall on sales and buy1, tAke1.unless you really need. Build your assets.Find a job.Find a way to earn.Sell your old clothes and stuff. Set aside your emergency funds. Buy some stocks.The younger you start this the better.Take advantage of the time.Take advantage while your parents are still providing your basic needs(or trade if you are a manageable risk-taker). Pay yourself first (savings) before you pay your bills.Only then, you will force yourself to be creative in making some cash.(just make sure it is legal, of course)
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LIFETIME
Admit that you do not have all the time in this world.It is true that life is short and you only live once but remember that life is unpredictable. Do not exhaust yourself while still making the most of the present. What if you live until 50,80,90 or 100?Will you just stay staring at the void? Do not live in regrets realizing that you should’ve at least try harder to have and maintain a better life when you still have time.I bet you would not want to live a long miserable life. when you know that you have tried enough to live to the fullest.You won’t have regrets. at the back of your mind ate echoes of “at least i have tried” Life is not really about the numbers,But on the quality you live on.Many are blessed with long years.but it there are who are blessed with shorter years. in the end we will all reach that point . Spend as if it is the last day.Time is gold. Use time wisely. You can never make up the lost time if it is gone. This world is temporary so nothing really last.
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LIFE IS UNFAIR
You will keep on crying over this fact as your effort does not match the results, especially when you compare yourself to others. Sometimes it is not just your effort tbut the other circumstances. Never do that. We may have difference in our aspects in the end we all just human being. The faster you realize this, the better you can move on with life.
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GRATITUDE
Often say the magic words,Thank you.Appreciate what others have done no matter how small it is. Thank them. Thank God for everything. For the good and bad. Thanks to Him for the the life he has given.we surely know that he has implanted our purpose in heart,whether we are living on it right now,walking towards that path or yet to be discovered. Thank Him by filling His gift of life with positivity and enthusiasm and service to others..
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——–-I did not know i would be able to write something as long as this.I started this blog while I was riding a jeepney. This is supposed to be my 25th year birthday blog.All of These may not be congruent with what you think. Just like what i said,we must respect differences. if any of the above-written statements stirred up your heart and mind, feel free to engage and comment below:))and share this blog as well.
June2017